The Great Debate: Well-Endowed or Good Looking?

Does size matter?There are plenty of ways for a man to attract a woman. Being good-looking is the most obvious way to do it but being well-endowed certainly doesn’t hurt either. Some men are blessed with both and have no trouble bringing home women.

But what if you could only choose one? Would you prefer to be extremely handsome with a dick so small that you could never truly pleasure a woman OR would your rather be ugly with a dick so big you could make even the loosest women squeal with delight?

It’s time for another edition of “The Great Debate.”

So we are all clear on the debate, I’m not just talking about having a small penis that is slightly below average. I’m talking about a penis that is so small it doesn’t fall within three standard deviations of the average male penis. However, you would be considered a near 10 on the LWB hotness scale (assuming the standards are the same for a man). You’d have all the characteristics of someone who is considered universally attractive (e.g Brad Pitt or George Clooney).

On the flip side, if you chose Ugly/ Big Dick, you will look like ESPN’s John Clayton with a porn star-sized dick.

Obviously there are plenty of benefits to being attractive. Aside from the obvious notion that a good-looking man will be able to attract more women, an attractive male will also make more money over his lifetime than his ugly counterpart.

According to the linked story from the Wall Street Journal, attractive people are likely to earn 3%-4% more than a person with below-average looks. That adds up to $230,000 more over the lifetime of a good-looking person. In addition, good-looking people are generally happier, more popular and marry partners who are equally as good-looking.

Based on the study and just my everyday observations, good-looking people are blessed with an extreme advantage in the game of life. This may certainly be more than enough of a trade-off for having a small penis.

These are all great advantages to being attractive but most men would say they desire to be good-looking so they can have sex with more, better-looking women. Women will be willing to overlook flaws that that would leave other less-attractive men single. An attractive man can say and do stupid things, treat a woman like shit and generally be a loser at life and still would have no trouble getting laid in most cases.

The problem Good-looking/ Small Penis Guy will have is actually keeping a woman. Once he gets a woman to bed and that woman sees his two-inch piece of manhood, its unlikely he will ever go out with her again (unless he is adept with his tongue).

Is a woman willing to be in a relationship where she will never be satisfied sexually just to be with a handsome man who she can show off to all her friends? What woman would want to knowingly marry a guy with a tiny penis? She’ll be entering into a lifetime of sexual frustration.

Looks will fade over time but his dick size will always stay the same. A guy in this situation is better off saving himself until marriage if he finds a girl he really likes. That way, she’s stuck with him and his little penis for life.

I have a tendency to reference How I Met Your Mother episodes in the past and I am going to do it again. There is an episode where Ted is getting over a break-up with his ex-girlfriend Robin. Shortly after the split, Robin has a fling with a character played by Enrique Iglesias. Ted is distraught because Robin appears to have rebounded so quickly and is having sex with a man much better-looking than he is. He believes Robin is over him already and has “won the break-up.”

At the end of the episode Ted discovers that Iglesias’ character has a small penis. The episode ends with Ted rejoicing with his friends over a beer as he proclaims that he is in fact the winner of the break-up. In this situation, a big penis trumps attractiveness.

Better to be good-looking or have a big dick

Ron Jeremy can certainly attest to that. Jeremy, a famous porn star, has achieved quite a lot in his life because he has a big dick. He is a hideous, fat looking man but he became one of the biggest porn stars of all-time because of his huge package.

Now on the other hand, Jeremy is probably the exception to the rule. He had the benefit of being a porn star, so millions of people were able to see the size of his penis. He also slept with thousands of beautiful women because of his occupation. Had he just been a regular dude, I doubt he would have been nearly as successful.

A ugly guy with a big penis may have trouble landing a girl, but once he does he has a much better chance of keeping that girl than the Good-looking/ Small Penis Guy. Cleary this woman overlooked Ugly/ Big Dick Guy’s appearance to have sex with him in the first place, so she must have liked his personality A LOT. And now that she is likely getting good sex on top of that, there’s no reason for her to ever leave.

If I had to choose, it would certainly be a difficult decision. I would not want to live my life with a tiny penis but I think the perks of being insanely good-looking would offset the issues that would arise from having a small dick.

On the other hand, I’m already married, so having women throw themselves at me would just end up bothering me because I wouldn’t be able to act on it. Perhaps in my situation, since I know where my next thousand lays will be, I’d choose being ugly with a big dick. I’m having sex with the same woman whether I’m ugly or hot, so I might as well make sex more fun for the both of us.

I’m sure there are plenty of attractive men out there that appear to have it all, but are living with the burden of having a tiny pecker. I’d like to interview these people and see if they’d be willing to trade some of their looks for a few more inches. The problem is I would never find a guy who’d be willing to admit he has a small dick.

I suppose the real question to ask is not whether we prefer one or the other but what do women prefer? Whatever they want is our answer.


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18 Comments

  1. Eric Waters says:

    Women talk. I’d rather be Ugly/Big Dick guy because you just need to get lucky once, then let word-of-mouth run its course. You can’t keep Godzilla a secret for long. Conversely, because women talk, Attractive/Little Dick man will eventually get little play. Of course he’ll make millions in the movies.

  2. Mr. Cleavage says:

    Eric has an interesting point…in fact, they discuss this very phenomenon in the movie ‘American Pie’ (remember, Finch gets tons of prom date requests after he bribes a girl to spread the word that he’s hung like a horse?). At first (being a little above average in both categories) I was thinking I’d still like to be Brad Pitt-like and have every gal’s attention when I walked in the room, but Johnny’s criteria of:
    “So we are all clear on the debate, I’m not just talking about having a small penis that is slightly below average. I’m talking about a penis that is so small it doesn’t fall within three standard deviations of the average male penis”
    makes me think being hung like a chipmunk would get old VERY fast unless you truly could back it up with Holywood-size royalty checks.

    As shallow as it sounds, Ugly Guy W/Big Dick gets my vote… I think I could throw in a killer sense of humor and make it work. Hedgehog for the win!!

  3. Johnny Sacks says:

    Building on your point Mr. Cleavage… Typically men are judged socially by their success in their careers and not necessarily with their looks. An ugly guy could still bang plenty of chicks if he makes a lot of money or is charming and has a good sense of humor, and that’s not even assuming he has a big dick.

    That being said, I’m still surprised at how well the Big Dick vote is doing to this point. I’d thought it be a lot closer.

  4. Alex Stevens says:

    It doesn’t matter if your good looking or well endowed. It doesn’t matter if you’re ugly, broke, boring, you can attract hot women. It’s all about knowing that YOU ARE THE MAN, and being 100% confident in yourself. Once you have this mindset you can approach ANY woman (even 10/10′s) and be as attractive as you can possibly be.

    Alex Stevens ~ http://seduction-guide.info/

  5. kavorka says:

    I’ll take the gorgeous face and the bird dick. Think of it this way… Would a woman rather date a stunning, statuesque, dashing fella with a light switch in his pants, or a mongoloid with an anaconda? I bet they chose the handsome fella with the tiny pee pee.

    There are ways to compensate for a tiny penis (No. I’m not typing from experience, so don’t go there). I wont get into the many ways to bring the runner home from third in bed, but oftentimes, the wang is a supporting cast to other skills.

    How do you compensate for looking like Randy Johnson? (aside from earning his salary) There is no God if someone like Randy Johnson doesn’t have a beast in his pants to compensate for the grotesque physical appearance.

    Don’t forget also, you will likely spend the vast majority of your life doing something else aside from having sex (i.e. working, food shopping, shooting hoops,getting haircuts). You don’t want to do any of those things as an ugly person do you?

  6. kavorka says:

    …and to comment on Alex Steven’s post… While I respect your opinion, I must say that I disagree with literally everything you said. It does matter if you are good looking, as LivingWithBalls pointed out in his article using hard number facts. It does matter if you are ugly (or else the films “Beauty and the Beast” and “Shallow Hal” wouldn’t really have a plot. It does matter if you are broke, because money is really the ultimate compensation for being ugly. It does matter if you are boring, because people won’t really enjoy your company. And, even if you convince yourself that you are “THE MAN”, you probably won’t land a perfect 10 if you are an ugly, boring, broke guy with a fraction of a penis.

  7. Face_ovr_dik says:

    I never thought there was such thing as attractive/small dick . Well now I know I do. I’m dating a super got guy that is without a doubt out of my leagu.e, he is sexy, smooth, very healthy, in shape, great skin, has a masters, his own business …. The list goes on and on. He claims to be madly in love with me, which I stilldon’t believe due to the fact that he looks like a calvin klein underwear model. He’s almost too perfect, except for the fact that his junk is microscopic :’( . The first time we had sex I was so excited and couldn’t believe my luck that’s until I held it in my han d n realized my pocket rocket was twice as big. Sex is soooo boring, he never comes and I never feel anything. Yet he is attractive and stylish that I love going out with him because we turn heads. My girlfriends are jealous and can’t believe he is so hot but if they only knew. I can honestly say that I’m with him cause of his looks and his personality cause its not the dick.

  8. Mr. Cleavage says:

    Face_ovr_dik,

    There’s only one solution… “I’m your back-door man…”

    Get him to take you to all of the swanky “see-and-be-seen” places where you’ll look great on his arm, show off your Prada purse and Chanel dress, etc…etc… Kiss him goodnight, thank him for a lovely evening, and go screw the living shit out of the short bald guy next door with the donkey-cock. Best of both worlds!

    You’re welcome

  9. dissapointedw/thedick says:

    I just this weekend,went out with someone very hot, successful, well educated, owns several houses, owns his own business, boats ect. We finally make our way to the bedroom and boom, the little guy rolls out and I realized I could floss with it :( It was sooooo disappointing, we’ve been flirting for years (literally 4 years) and my hopes were up! It was very hard to “get there” if you know what I mean. He was even very sensuous, took his time, was a cunning Linguist if you catch my drift, but just seriously lacked the punch us girls need to push us over the edge. I’m in my late 30′s he just turned 40 and it reminded me of the age old saying. Men are like parking spaces, all the good ones are taken, and the rest is handicapped. This guy for all his wealth, smarts and looks, has yet to settle down, and now I know why.

  10. jlb33 says:

    I think at the end of the day, god has his own way of evening up the playing field. Anyone who has watched porn will tell you, 90% of the biggest guys are ugly as hell. Shane diesel, Mandingo, Ron Jeremy etc… When it comes to penis size, it’s usually the guy that girls pay no attention to in everyday life. Skinny, dorky, introvert. Their is a new celebrity porn out, and it’s Mc Lovin off of superbad banging this black girl. The guy had a third leg, it was unbelievable. I think if your above average in looks and in penis size, you should feel blessed.

  11. LovvingWithBalls says:

    Let me tell you a universal truth right quick- it’s established that ugly guys that have the confidence that goes with having a big dick will more than make up for their facial deficiencies. He’ll be charming, self deprecating and funny, make you scream with laughter… then scream for other reasons later. There is absolutely no point in being in a relationship with a man who can’t pleasure you in bed, no matter what he looked like. Fully agree disappointedw/thedick, I’d feel totally cheated if I found myself in that situation- I mean come on! Girls are usually not as superficial as men, for the mostly we just want a good man to take care of our needs, ALL of them

  12. Nugs says:

    I’m a girl, so I have to weigh in: I’ll take the face and the build. Sometimes if it’s THAT big you get what I refer to as “stomach dick,” where you can um, feel it in your stomach and it gets kind of painful. Then again, not THAT small. I’m fine with average.

    Other than that, what’s most important to me is a guy that’s confident in himself and can make me laugh. If you can’t make me laugh, I’ll never know how big your dick is because you’ll never be taking off your pants in front of me anyway.

    Also, if a guy is a total fucking idiot, he has no shot with me. If you don’t know the difference between Julius Caesar and Little Caesar’s, you won’t be showing me your little Caesar.

    So the real debate here should be whether or not you care if a guy is hot if he can’t stimulate a conversation with you for more than thirty seconds.

  13. BigDickMagnet chooses Good Looking Guy says:

    I have never been with a guy with a smaller dick—call me lucky, I suppose—but I would much rather have the attractive guy with a small dick.

    The reason is that, with a little creativity, a guy can easily make up for a lack of girth in bed. Who honestly cares about length anyway… as Nugs said, length results in “stomach dick.” I have that problem with my husband, and it really does limit what we can do comfortably. Anyway, I’d take dissapointedw/thedick’s guy in a heartbeat. Any guy who takes his time and gives good oral is A-ok in my books :)

    Interestingly enough, the largest dick I have ever seen (and we are talking like 14″ “third leg” proportions) was on a guy I dated in high school. We never actually slept together, so I can’t really comment on the experience… but my point is that this guy was 5’8″ and fugly as hell. I dated him because he was hilarious and fun to be around. But really, he was easily one of the worst looking guys in school—kind of similar in looks to John Clayton, actually, but with black hair and much, much uglier.

    I speak from experience when I say large dicks are overrated. Even if my husband is of significant size, my vibrator easily kicks his well-endowed ass at delivering a mind blowing orgasm. However, there are no toys on the market that can replace a sensual massage/foreplay and good oral. Truth.

  14. Natalia says:

    Ok it’s been my experience that women talk about the hung guys and thats it. They always talk about how it’s used and if you have a big one and didn’t know how to use it…your really gonna get talked about. Good looking guys typically win here because they score no matter what and girls usually know one thing…it aint how big, it’s how its used!!! The QB of a big time college FB team and I had sex …He was 6’5 245…his little guy was freaking huge! Fat and long but he didn’t know how to work it and well…I heard the rumors and only did it because the WR for the team (better looking, smaller dick but man knew how to work it!) was sick and I was horny. I’ll tell you what, the receiver was the one getting all the play not the QB.

  15. Astrid says:

    Those two choices are just… so bad. Dating a person you find ugly is difficult to do. If I actually find him ugly (without even considering whether he is seen as such by the majority of others), it is a set up for failure, even if for the sake of example his dick is enormous, he’s skilled, and he’s got decent qualities, etc…I’m fucking a man I find ugly – not an average or meh, but butt ugly – man? And basically just for his dick? No. A person needs some attraction. He can be ugly to others but I can’t sleep with him if he is ugly to me.

    Nor would I want to be with a man of above average looks just to show him off to others, and then get in bed and endure the pokes of a pitiful three inch, spindly dick. (Three inches or less is what this article seems to be describing and I have sadly seen many of these…)

    I derive true pleasure from seeing, touching, and admiring a decently sized penis; performing oral, anticipating its entry during foreplay, and experiencing actual penetration. This is in addition to, not in replacement of all of the other aspects of lovemaking. I am not a size queen and am on the tight side, so six (with girth) will be perfect for me. Three inches will *never satisfy a woman like me. I think the only women who could find satisfaction with the men with a tiny penis are those that do not derive the kind of mental and physical pleasure I spoke about, from visually enjoying his sheer manhood or receiving penetration.. For me its essential that foreplay and giving me oral are also things he is good at, but I’m not a lesbian. I require MORE than that in the end.
    Faced with those two choices I choose my vibrating toys.

  16. Huge Freak says:

    Interesting article, I understand your decision and I can comprehend the comments, even those comitting to “beautiful + tiny penis”. I can comprehend this because I have experienced this all my life.

    I can, however, not understand. Let me tell you why, from the viewpoint of “fugly + huge penis”:

    I am 28, I am 6.7 foot in height, 240 pounds heavy.
    I have bad teeth. (clean, but yellow and bad…)
    I have thin hair (of which 20% is already ash-pale-gray).
    I have bad skin in terms of stretchmarks at hips, thighs and around axle / upper arm (guess the human body wasn’t supposed to grow that fast and big).

    I am a construction worker (foreman) and I do heavy weightlifting.
    I am really huge. I can’t fit through any door, I don’t fit on chairs or tables – I don’t fit anywhere.
    Nothing fits me – I can’t dress sharp. There are few shoes at size 15, there are no fancy clothes at size 5XL. There are virtually no pants at size 40/40.

    I look like a monster that is dressed like a bum/nerd/etc. People are afraid of me / make fun of me / look at me ALL THE TIME.

    BUT

    My penis is truly a little over 9 inches in length (measured with a ruler on top of the penis, not pressed into the body) and about 6 inches around (6 around the top, almost 6.5 around the base). It’s straight, gets rock-hard and has faultless skin around it. It’s accompanied by two fat balls in a big sack.
    The package is huge and heavy and is – no doubt – the best part of me. I have yet to see a more appealing overall package in porn.

    I was a virgin until 19, so puberty was hard on me and i was very unhappy.
    But since then… I am thankful for being exactly like I am. Carrying a package of this size is the greatest gift a man can get in life. It gives you confidence in everything you do, every day. It ceeps you calm in every situation, I am almost impossible to anger because I have this deep feeling of contentment with my body, with me as a man’s man. I think I am as proud as a man can be.

    People on the street are not nice to me or are afraid of me – but these are people I don’t know and meanwhile I just don’t care about those people anymore.

    People I work with treat me good, I feel I have never missed anything career wise because of my look. MAYBE I’m also in the right industry for that.

    So… your main concern: WOMEN.

    It’s hard for me. Harder than for most other guys I guess. But it’s not impossible.

    I got three women in my life that new nothing of my genitals, despite my looks. Two of them stayed with me for a few years.

    I got some other women either after beying whored out by friends at parties or after women I had been with had talked and “recommended” me for a great fuck night.

    Everytime a women sees my penis for the first time, right before sex, her reaction makes me feel like I am on top of the world. The reactions are different but always make me nearly explode of proudness.

    If I could choose and live again or if I could choose now and live on as somebody else… I wouldn’t change a thing. It took me some time to appreciate my body as it is but now I got it and now I love every day.

    I honestly don’t think there are many guys out there that have this general happiness like me. No matter how good they look.

    Bottom line: Huge and healty penis equals GREAT LIFE.

  17. J.D. says:

    Good article and I still can’t decide on what I would rather have. I guess it would be nice to find a happy medium of good looks and substantial penis size. Penis size can also be distorted by height/weight as well. I am close to 7′ tall and have an average size penis but unfortunately it looks small on my tall frame and so therefore the couple of girls that have seen it have commented on it and said it was small. I would like to mention that I am of below average looks too. The only girls that I have been with have gone out with me because of my height and thinking that I had a beast in my pants. If the same penis was on a guy who was 6′ or under a girl would probably think it was “above average” or at least average and probably be quite happy with it.

  18. Emily says:

    Guys assume most women are worried about penis size. Lesbians and bisexual women are clearly not concerned with their female partners penis size…

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