The Slow-Pitch Softball Ten Commandments

Spring is in the air! If there’s one thing Spring is synonymous with, it’s baseball.  However, most men my age have long since given up on their boyhood dreams of playing professional baseball.  Lack of athletic ability, combined with unwillingness to work hard has put an end to that dream.  Instead, men (me included) have decided to live out their dying boyhood fantasies by playing slow-pitch softball.

As someone who has been playing for about seven years now, I have learned a lot and I am ready to pass on my knowledge to you.  With leagues beginning to start up, it’s important that all men follow these important rules.  These are 10 commandments that all men who play softball must abide by. 

10.  Thou Shall not Argue with the Opposing Umpire
If you argue with the umpire for more than two consecutive seconds you should be banned from all softball leagues across the country.  Most softball umpires are 60 year-old men who are just trying to get away from their wives and make a few extra bucks.  These guys aren’t professionals and neither are you, so don’t make an ass out of yourself by getting into a screaming match with the ump. 

9.  Thou Shall not Wear Baseball Pants to Play Softball
The only acceptable attire for a softball game is sweatpants or shorts.   Wearing baseball pants is one of many signs you take softball too seriously.  You’re not on your high school travel team anymore.  There’s no need to wear baseball pants.  Wear shorts and a knee pad if you’re worried about cutting your knees up.

8.  Thou Shall not Play More than Twice a Week
I love playing softball but I will not play more than twice in a given week and neither should you.  If you’re playing softball, you’re probably in your 30’s and 40’s and therefore have lots of responsibilities (job, wife, kids etc).   Don’t neglect those responsibilities because you’re playing a 162- game schedule.

7. Thou Shall not Wear Batting Gloves to Play Softball
Anyone who plays baseball knows you wear batting gloves for two reasons:  The first is to keep your hands from getting blisters and the second is to reduce the sting in your hands after getting jammed.  Neither applies when playing softball.

You don’t need to worry about getting blisters.  It’s not like you’re going to be taking a 100 cuts off the tee and three rounds of batting practice in the cage before the game.  You’re going to stroll your fat ass to the plate, take four hacks a game and then sit your ass back on the bench.

You also don’t need to worry about getting jammed because…it’s FUCKING SOFTBALL. If you can’t get around on a pitch playing softball than you shouldn’t be playing—and even if you did get jammed, it won’t hurt.  So stop being such a pussy and take the batting gloves off.

6.  Thou Shall Avoid Pitching if Possible
I’ve been playing softball for a while now and I’m pretty amazed that I haven’t seen someone DIE.  An out of shape, aging pitcher stands from 45 feet away and lobs the ball to a large man who is swinging an aluminum club as hard as he can.  I’ve seen batted balls nearly take a pitcher’s head off.  I myself once broke a guy’s nose on a hard ground ball…to THIRD BASE!  So imagine the danger the pitcher faces.  If you can avoid pitching, do so. Let someone else get killed.

5. The Worst Player on the Team Shall Play Catcher
If you just joined the team and the coach asks you to play catcher, then I’ve got some bad new for you—you’re the worst player on the team. The catcher is essentially useless in slow-pitch softball.  Runners can’t steal and they can’t advance on wild pitches or passed balls.  The only time the catcher does anything is on a play at the plate.  I can say first-hand this can be frustrating from an outfielder’s perspective. There’s nothing more annoying than throwing a perfect strike from the outfield to nail a runner at home, only to see the catcher make a futile attempt to catch the ball.  

4. Thou Shall not Play with Clinchers
For those of you that don’t know, clinchers are softballs designed to reduce the speed of the ball off the bat. They are used in senior citizen leagues so old people don’t get killed by rocket line drives.  These balls SUCK.  There’s nothing more frustrating than hitting the crap out of the ball only to see it die in the shallow outfield.  If you’re under 50 years old, you have no excuse for using this ball.

3. Love Thy Teammate
This should really apply to sports at all levels, but especially with softball.  Any softball team is likely to have a wide range of skilled players on the team.  Don’t be overly critically of a player if he boots a ball or pops up with the bases loaded.  Yelling at another player on your own team is likely to get you punched in the face. Just remember that it’s SOFTBALL, this isn’t the World Series. No one will care about the outcome five minutes after the completion of the game.  So don’t be a dick.  Just keep the comments to yourself.

2. Honor Thy Commitment to Softball
I keep saying that its softball and you shouldn’t take it too seriously. On the other hand, it’s important to stay committed to the team.  Your team is there to have fun but they also want to win.  Ditching your team because you got too drunk last night is NOT COOL.  I didn’t wake up at 8:00 am on a Sunday only to find out the game is cancelled because we didn’t have enough people show up.  If you’re hung over, TOO BAD—Suck it up.  There’s a good chance half the people playing are hung over also, so it should make for an even playing field.

1. Thou Shall Not Take Softball so Seriously
I know I have reiterated this point to death but it’s FUCKING SOFTBALL.  Do not take it so seriously!  This is the GOLDEN RULE of softball and it sums up all the other commandments. You are NOT allowed to throw gloves, kick bats, use profanity, yell at umps and teammates or start brawls.  This isn’t your high school division championship game or a college tryout.  There are no scouts or parents in the stands. There is no media and no statistics.  This is an OLD MAN SOFTBALL LEAGUE.  You’re here to have fun! Just keep that in mind the next time you boot a ground ball.

I myself have been guilty of a lot of these commandments over the years.  However, I have since found my way and repented for my softball sins.  If you have any other rules, feel free to share it in the comments section.

48 comments for “The Slow-Pitch Softball Ten Commandments

  1. Jeff
    March 30, 2010 at 7:41 pm

    You forgot to mention the the thing that should be the most important to middle-aged male softball players. I used to recite this to my teammates when I played washed up ball: The post game beer is cold and refreshing… no matter whether we win or lose.

    Could there really be anything more important?

  2. Charles Arcella
    March 31, 2010 at 8:45 am

    Don’t play the outfield in a softball game with a Baseball infielder’s mitt. It’s way too small.
    Unless, you do use it and then it’s a viable excuse when you don’t catch the ball.

  3. March 31, 2010 at 10:28 am

    Good point Jeff. Consider that the 11th commandment!

    • Bbgirl22
      January 26, 2016 at 11:10 am

      The most important rule is sportsmanship. Be good winners and good loosers. Dont get mad at the other team because they smoozed the umpire before you did. Or they are simply better than you.
      Congratulating the other team at home after the game is just good loosers and winners .
      and for christ sakes! Dont listen to the guy playing second. Hel get your goat if the catcher didnt get you with his trash talk. Well if you got a good
      Main thing setting example for younger players just coming of age . the age of softball. and geeze just have fun

  4. April 17, 2010 at 2:54 pm

    Good rules to go by, especially number 1, Thou Shall Not Take Softball So Seriously. It’s all about having a little fun with the guys and family, and like Jeff said, there’s beer and food whether we win or lose.

  5. Keith
    May 21, 2010 at 11:35 pm

    Man…..I am the catcher on my team.

  6. Dan
    July 16, 2010 at 1:55 am

    glad to read this because i am guilty of taking it too serious sometimes. it is just softball and im 30, its not like its the mlb or anything!! love drinking that cold beer during and afterwards for sure

  7. Hitman_Cardino
    August 23, 2010 at 1:17 pm

    Dude! I’m the pitcher! I think my team mates are trying to kill me and have more post game beer for themselves!

  8. Mandy
    September 13, 2011 at 7:55 am

    Well, I was excited that I didnt seem to be the worst woman on the team, until I read this…..I am the catcher.

  9. Tonya
    May 13, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    Catcher is worst player on the team? Lol respectfully disagree..
    Who can slow down the pitcher when he gets to excited to pitcher a good ball?
    Who can show the pitcher where to put the ball with the position of the glove?
    Who can stand in front of home with a wide open target only to have the shortstop overthrow the ball?
    Who can catch a tipped ball for an easy out?

    Played all positions except pitcher(which takes a certain kind if crazy I don’t have) and 3rd bases..Catching is one of my favorites closely followed by 1st.

    • ryan
      August 4, 2014 at 7:39 pm


    • Leslie Hopkins
      March 30, 2015 at 2:22 am

      Agreed as well.

  10. May 23, 2012 at 1:38 pm

    ^^What? We have a kid with a broken arm playing catcher. Legit…in a cast…broken arm. No issues.

  11. Jason
    May 30, 2012 at 1:22 am

    I want a pair of those yellow baseball pants!!!

  12. Sal
    July 14, 2012 at 5:25 pm

    You’re a fucking idiot. “Thy shall not wear baseball pants?” But sweatpants are ok? Fucking idiot plain and simple.

    • ryan
      August 4, 2014 at 7:40 pm


    • Jack Sandstrom
      August 11, 2014 at 11:34 pm

      Hahaha! Guess who wears baseball pants to his softball games!!!!!!

  13. July 14, 2012 at 9:29 pm

    Sal…I did not make the rules. They were passed along to me from a higher power on two stone tablets.

  14. Peter
    July 16, 2012 at 12:54 am

    I just started today and I got one inning at First, only to be sent to catcher the rest of the game. I guess I’ve got nowhere but up to go from here. Thanks for the chuckles.

  15. mike f
    August 25, 2012 at 9:53 pm

    Sal – get a clue you sissy – damn straight you shouldnt wear baseball pants – i have seen one guy wear them and he was definitely made fun of lol. Dont be a douche

  16. February 8, 2013 at 1:53 pm

    He who is without error may throw the first softball

  17. March 1, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    I wear gloves & pants. My hands sweat, and I slide.

    People in sweatpants look like idiots. Right gear for the game!

    And I take it serious (to a point). People who say to not take it so seriously, generally suck, in my experience, and use this as their excuse for their poor ability.

    Sound familiar?

    • Johnny Sacks
      March 1, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      I take it serious to a point as well. One of my main points was basically to not be an asshole when playing softball, by yelling at teammates or cursing out umpires. That’s what I meant by taking it seriously. Everyone should be giving a strong effort when they play, they just shouldn’t treat the game like the end of the world.

  18. Scott
    March 28, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    In all fairness, I did get a good laugh at these “commandments”. However, to make it perfectly clear, they only apply to lower level beer leagues. I go to great lengths to stay in shape now that I’m into my 30’s (to prevent injury while playing). I am able to play competive softball without acting like a douche. I disagree about the pants though; they are an absolute must to prevent skinned shins/knees. Over the course of the game you might find yourself in a situation where you need to slide (on defense) to stop/knock down a ball. Sweatpants/shorts won’t get the job done. If you are not willing to put in the effort to slide during a game then you should not be playing. Otherwise you are just out on the field wasting everyone else’s time with your lack of effort.

  19. serhilde
    April 8, 2013 at 11:46 pm

    Number 7: bollocks. I have blisters… or did until I wore gloves. Maybe you don’t love this game enough to play more than twice a week… but if my husband can watch tv 24/7, I should be able to play softball as much as I please. “I wish I’d stayed on the couch more” said no one, ever.

  20. RJ S
    April 13, 2013 at 3:08 am

    Man, I got offered to play catcher. Ima jump on it though. haha Hey Im gonna use gloves. I’m a musician and a cop so I need my hands. Quick question though, “What about jeans?” I’ve during “pick up” games. They work. 😉

  21. RJ S
    April 13, 2013 at 3:15 am

    *used them

  22. Jay
    May 4, 2013 at 1:07 am

    RJ S, jeans are no good. They’re too restricting and if you’re not careful, you’ll end up leaving the game with torn jeans after a play at 1st. I like shorts the best.

  23. DK
    June 8, 2013 at 7:52 pm

    Quick points
    -PLEASE, for your own sake, do not wear jeans or sweatpants to play softball.
    -Anyone that says the catcher is useless is a moron. I catch a lot, we have outstanding outfielders that can gun someone at the plate and there needs to be an able body to make the catch and make the tag. Also, nothing like a 5-2-3 double play.
    -If you are going to slide into a base, dive for a ball, or slide on your knees in the outfield to make a catch, you better have some baseball/softball pants on. I have seen some serious skin taken off guys legs that say “pants are for guys that take it too seriously”

  24. joe
    July 8, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    softball is for losers who couldnt play baseball ..especially funny is the fat guys who think it makes them athletes lol

    • Mike
      August 10, 2013 at 11:27 pm

      What about ex college baseball players looking for some fun and a chance to drink beer with friends?

  25. Mike h
    March 11, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Your an idiot !! You must be the league dick that bitches at every player but u probably suck – you look to fat to slide guess u don’t need baseball pants – and all members of any team are equally important u dick that’s why it’s a team – learn how to use players – anyone who plays sports are competitive they may not all be great – but to be a fat-ass like u and talk shit about others makes me laugh

  26. George
    May 20, 2014 at 4:39 am

    I have absolutely no respect for any of the 10 commandments of slow pitch softball, because this says join it, go out of your way always strike out on purpose, because that is real strategy when you play a game that someone wants to call softball with 3 balls, and 2 strikes.

  27. Johnny
    June 10, 2014 at 4:45 pm

    I can sort of agree with this if you’re talking C & D level Coed softball, but not every league is meant to be approached with the same level of competitiveness or thereof.

    • Johnny
      June 10, 2014 at 4:46 pm

      lack thereof

  28. ryan
    August 4, 2014 at 6:51 pm

    Have you ever even played softball? I wear baseball pants because sliding in shorts can really mess up your legs. Yesterday I had a guy dead to rights on a throw from third to the plate and because we have a shitty player at catcher he missed the throw. A good catcher is very important. The opposing Umpire? There is no opposing Umpire you idiot. Just an umpire. I wear gloves so that the bat doesn’t slip out of my hands. You can’t use pine tar on a composite bat. Avoid pitching? Man are you a pussy? If you can pitch well then you pitch to help your team.

    • Rob
      September 12, 2014 at 12:47 am

      I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks this dudes a moron

  29. Rob
    September 12, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Umm I pitch and I’ve never gotten hit you just move back and get ready after you throw the ball and why can’t you wear baseball pants? cause anyone that’s slid into a base with shorts on knows you’ll rip your leg open…… Also you wear batting gloves because if you hit it off the end of the bat it does vibrate and you do get blisters and I’ve had the bat slip out of my hands before because I wasn’t wearing them and there are some leagues that have stealing like if you play in an Asa tournament so your catcher can’t suck….. So I just shit in your whole list basically…… But your right don’t take it to seriously that’s about the only thing you got right

  30. heidi
    October 17, 2014 at 2:54 pm

    When i read through all these comments, it’s easy too see who all the assholes are!

  31. Dave
    October 17, 2014 at 3:02 pm

    Don’t wear baseball pants. What do you think knee braces are for? The brace lets you slide without losing flesh.

  32. Brooke
    March 20, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    Thanks, Rob. This guy is a douche who thinks softball doesn’t count as a sport obviously. I am the best girl player on my team and I play catcher. One.. if there is a play at the plate I can take the slide and make the play. Two… I can see the whole field and know exactly what to do in the infield. Three… No one else wants to do it!
    I can throw to any base and make the out without any problems. Also, I don’t like batting gloves but yes the bat CAN sting you. The rest is pretty much rubbish also. Just a few things from my perspective & I’ve played for nearly 24 years.

  33. Kc
    June 27, 2015 at 11:27 am

    What the problem wearing pants? I see all these guys sliding in shorts and scraping the shit out of their legs.

  34. Wil
    August 3, 2015 at 8:12 am

    #7 is wrong

  35. Jim Childs
    August 6, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    I thought he was joking a little in this. Anyways, What I am wondering about is opposing team ettiquite. Is it ok to call out a team which is up by ten runs and still looking to get a walk, celebrating profusely when they score a run, demeaning the other team. It is not the big league’s so why be a bunch of dicks. I don’t like losing, but losing to a bunch of cocky assholes is the worst. Makes me not even want to play.

    October 22, 2015 at 5:44 pm

    While reading this article, it became apparent to me that the writer is the guy I’m used to playing against that rolls his eyes when he sees my “bomb squad” enter the opposing dugout. Yes, we wear pants, we wear batting gloves, many of us have matching equipment bags, our catcher is an intricate part of our defense, we play more than twice a week (my wife works nights, hooray 4 me!), & sometimes leagues use clinchers because my crushers will put Gold Dots in the trees!! We take the game of slow pitch softball serious because of the time spent playing & it’s a passion & love for us!! I always loved how the “typical” softball team would make comments like “what do these guys think this is the World Series?!?”, after we just mercy’d them, while their girlfriends would chime in saying “yea hon, they weren’t that good”…trying to ease the humiliation you just endured at the hands of my TEAM. Anything other than 1st place is a failure, 2nd sucks.

    PS. I hate losing more than I love winning…⚾️⚾️

    • Craig
      March 3, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      Wow, you are probably one of those teams that plays in a D just for practice. If your team is that fantastic move up then, or can’t you handle failure Ricky Bobby?

  37. Alex
    May 1, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    I read in to everything you write to decipher the true meaning.
    Baseball, and New York V’s Chicago are
    Talking about types of chicks one can mess with if you’re married but still a “player” right? Also, on that earlier post
    You’re really hinting the rules the girls must follow when they show up at a game? A player can always read signs…

    November 16, 2016 at 3:55 am

    Craig, what did you read in my comments that would make you think we don’t play in the highest division of any rec leagues we participate in?? Unfortunately, nowadays there are “typical” teams like that in A & B divisions. And we lose, graciously I might add. But this article suggests myths that I’ve heard for over 20 years now, & there’s nothing wrong with being competitive in amateur sports, especially when you commit much time and money towards it. 6TH BORO SOFTBALL!! Google us…

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