Is it Gay?: Owning a Cat

The word gay has evolved over the years.   Back in the day it was a word for happy and jovial.  Then it became a word to describe a man who is sexually attracted to other men.  But recently, it’s also taken on new meaning.  The term gay now refers to something that is lame, stupid or effeminate.

For example, a guy may say something like “Dude, Steve just bought the new Taylor Swift CD. How gay is that?… or “Rich is so gay. He blew off going to the bar to watch “Dancing with the Stars.”

In the original Living with Balls series, I will take a close look at something that may be perceived as “gay” (in the most recent definition) among fellow men and determine if it truly is gay or if it’s a perfectly manly thing to do.

Today’s topic is: Owning a cat.

Dogs have long held the title as “Man’s Best Friend.” Ever since that phrase was coined, men have always been encouraged to own a dog.  But what about cats?  Is it socially acceptable for single man to own a cat?  Can a man who owns a cat be considered masculine?

Men with dogs have never had to worry about the stigma of being gay.  But male cat owners have long been the butt of jokes because they own a cat.  It’s even been portrayed in popular culture.  Since a young age we’ve been conditioned to think it’s gay to own a cat.  Just take a look at some of our favorite childhood cartoons…  Jon Arbuckle— the owner of Garfield—is a total loser. Mister Geppetto from Pinocchio is the proud owner of Figaro the cat.  He is a weird old man who sits around all day making wooden boy puppets and collecting clocks.  And that bad guy from Inspector Gadget is always menacingly petting a cat.

Meanwhile, dogs get all the good movie roles.  How many good dog movies have there been?   Turner and Hooch, Beethoven, and Marley and Me are just a few.  The dog is always portrayed as a hero, while cats can barely get a supporting role. Even Homeward Bound, which featured a cat, still managed to shed cats in a negative light.  Michael J. Fox played a lovable mutt named Chance, while Sally Field played a whiney, pretentious cat. There’s even a movie called All Dogs go to Heaven.  What about cats? Do they go straight to hell?  Do they have to go to purgatory first? No one ever makes good movies about a cat.

Cats have been getting a bad publicity for years.  The rules of society tell us it is weird for a man to own a cat.  I’m here to tell you why it’s perfectly fine for a man to have a feline friend.

I’ve grown up with both cats and dogs nearly my entire life.  I enjoy both of them as pets.  But dogs are A LOT of work.  They are like a child that never grows up.  You have to be there to feed them, walk them, exercise them and groom them. When it’s 6 a.m. and its 12 degrees outside, your dog is not going to want to hear your excuses.  They haven’t gone to the bathroom in 10 hours and they need to piss. You have a choice to either get your butt out of bed and walk them in the freezing cold or have them piss on your carpet. It’s your choice.

Dogs also tend to kill your social life.  Our lives can be very demanding at times, which can make it difficult to be home enough to properly take care of a dog.  Want to go out for a few drinks after work?  Sorry! Your dog needs to be walked and fed.  You got to go home before he craps on the carpet!  And unlike cats, you can’t just leave food out for dogs because they will literally eat themselves to death if you leave enough food out for them.

Meanwhile, cats are basically self-sufficient. They will eat at a normal pace, they shit without you having to be there and they clean themselves. They are one of the easiest pets to take care of—which is perfect for us lazy guys out there.

Then there’s the issue of cost.  Owning a dog is WAAAY more expensive than owning a cat.  Food, toys, vet bills; they are all more expensive for dogs than for cats.  According to it will cost approximately $600-$900 annually to own a cat, which is significantly cheaper than owning a dog.  Costs vary depending on the size of the dog but according to this article, owning a dog is a lot more money.

Now I am in agreement that most dogs make for more manly pets than cats–and in a lot of cases, they can be more rewarding to own as well.  You can bring dogs places, you can train them to do tricks and they are always happy to see you.  However, some men just don’t have the lifestyle that is necessary to own a dog and they shouldn’t be labeled as effeminate for that.  If a man wants to own a pet and a dog is not an option, then a cat is certainly a great substitute….and besides, even the most hardened, macho man couldn’t help crack a smile after watching this cat clip.

My wife and I recently adopted a kitten and it was definitely a decision I’m happy we made.  We initially wanted a dog but we now realize that it would have been difficult for us take care of one.  Our cat is super-friendly, is a great companion and makes me laugh every day—which is more than I can say about a lot of people I know.  Though I will say this,  the other day I went to feed my cat in the morning and we were out of food.  Since I work late some nights, I drove to Petco at 9:00 a.m. on a Tuesday and picked up some food.   As I walked through the store, I felt a little weird being by myself, buying cat food on a Tuesday morning.  I’m pretty sure the cashier thought I was a homosexual unemployed man.

But I’m neither a homosexual or unemployed.   I’m married, so having a cat is a perfectly non-gay thing for me to do.   But is it ok for a single man?

I still say it is.  However, I do have two guidelines for a man who is thinking about getting a cat…

1.      DO NOT own multiple cats.  One is enough.  Having multiple cats will indeed make you look weird.  Have you ever seen animal hoarders?  Those people are bat-shit crazy.

2.      If you’re on a first date, hold off talking about your cat until you’ve at least been out a few times.  Although I think it’s ok to own a cat, your date may still think it’s strange when you bust out pictures of your kitty on your cell phone on the first date.  After a few dates she may see enough things she likes about you to overlook the fact that you own a prissy little Russian Blue named Snuggles.

So what are your thoughts? Do you think it’s “gay” for a man to own a cat?  Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.

58 comments for “Is it Gay?: Owning a Cat

  1. Mkterp
    March 3, 2011 at 11:37 am

    As a formerly anti-cat guy turned pro-cat, I agree with everything in this post. I reluctantly agreed to get a cat when my wife had been bugging me for a long time, and I fell in love with the little guy immediately. As somebody once told me, “dogs are for everyone’s enjoyment, cats are only for their owners.” That’s the problem with cats – any guy who has never owned one claims that they hate cats. Why? Because when you go to a cat owners house, the cat usually hides the whole time, or is stand-offish. I had no idea how loving and how much fun they can be.

    That being said, it’s still a LITTLE gay for a single guy to own a cat. I would imagine most women would be a bit turned off by it initially.

    • Will
      June 11, 2015 at 10:32 pm

      I have owned both cats and dogs, all I can say is get a rabbit. I have had several dogs, and over half of them would not house break. I even had some out door dogs, and they would bark till 4:00am. I have a chihuahua that shits on the floor. My last dog was a beagle that was house broken, but barked so much that her bark collar burned holes in her neck.

      Cats are low maintenance, but they love to scratch everything. There is nothing worse than buying a new suit for church or a job interview, and then the cat decides to use your leg as a scratching post.Try going to work and have people laugh at you, because there is cat hair ALL OVER YOU. If you do get a cat then get the deodorizing kitty-litter, and a covered litter box. Changing a litter box stinks. Next, if you get a cat then get them fixed, because cats are crazy if they are not fixed. Plus, the females will have two or three litters of kittens a year.

      As men I’m not so sure we really need pets.

  2. Deuce McGee
    March 4, 2011 at 7:45 am

    I’ll tell you what’s gay — being named Johnny Sacks and skipping poker with the boys last night to sit at home with your cat. THAT’S gay.

  3. March 4, 2011 at 11:14 am

    Deuce I stayed home because I felt bad taking my friends’ money all the time. I decided to let someone else win for a change.

    • Pistolero
      December 24, 2015 at 12:00 am

      I love your comment Deuce !

  4. March 10, 2011 at 6:04 am

    Is too sweet the kitty! And is not gay at all of having it. My boyfriend also has a kittykat :)

  5. Sarah
    March 15, 2011 at 9:38 am

    As a visiting chick, I just had to comment – those remarks above about women thinking it’s strange or a turn-off for a single guy to own a cat? No way, women love a guy who likes cats. Just visit or cute boys with cats on tumblr and see all the comments from women wanting to date the men pictures with their cats. I can’t think of a better chick-magnet.

  6. Brian
    March 15, 2011 at 10:45 am

    Actually the only thing that makes you gay is being attracted to men. Everything else is beside the point.

  7. FloorMan
    March 15, 2011 at 11:16 am

    A friend of mine once owned a kitty cat and was MOBBED by women.

    …it was a baby leopard. ;>)

    Besides, they made a Broadway play – a VERY successful one – about cats. Dogs? Um…that would be “No”.

  8. Derek
    March 15, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    I agree with the previous poster: how could women find it a turn OFF instead of a turn ON that her potential boyfriend owns a cat?
    Most women love cats and the fact that the man owns a cuddly cute friend is definitely a plus.

  9. megan
    March 15, 2011 at 2:49 pm

    those women are cat loving women. women who prefer dogs, or neither, or both will probably still find the cat guy kinda weird. esp. babytalking to it. turn and run!

  10. selena
    March 15, 2011 at 5:11 pm

    somehow i think of pets as something you get when starting a family, not before.
    a young single person owning a pet? sorry, but it just says ‘not good with people, so i got a pet instead’ to me. of course that’s only a first impression and one i’m willing to correct in the rare cases i’ve been mistaken.

    i do agree that cats are less depended on their owner and therefore much better pets for the busy professional.
    i feel dogs are only feasible if you or your partner is home most of the day. otherwise the poor thing will spend his days bored out of his head while also needing to really, really pee.
    hiring a dog-walker? *you* bought it, *you* take care of it.

    • Andrew
      September 11, 2013 at 10:46 am

      I’m single and I own a cat, both out of choice. That being said, having him around works out nicely to weed out stupid cunts and macho douchebags who have a problem with a guy owning a cat.

      • Michael
        January 23, 2015 at 4:04 am

        Awesome and true response!

      • April 12, 2015 at 11:37 pm

        Awesome. Bro

  11. carliomanos
    March 15, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    you care a lot about what other people think
    that’s gay
    you’re gay

  12. Liz
    March 15, 2011 at 10:02 pm

    I find owning a cat to be a turn-on. It shows you’re responsible enough to care for another creature and don’t care about looking effeminate. Plus, I’m more of a cat person than a dog person, so that’s also a plus.

  13. Katie
    March 15, 2011 at 11:43 pm

    I don’t like cats, so I don’t find men who own cats attractive, and I’ll admit to being a little turned off when a guy admits that he owns one. Like I said, though, I don’t like cats in general (I’m a dog person), so I imagine guys that have cats would be attractive to women that like/have cats. A man’s beloved pussy could one day have him rolling in pussy of an entirely different sort.

  14. March 16, 2011 at 12:26 am

    I’m so glad that you’re perpetuating the use of the word “gay” as a derogatory. Way to go.

  15. Ashley
    March 16, 2011 at 12:29 am

    I would just like to say that as a cat-loving woman, a guy that is man enough to admit he loves cats is an ENORMOUS turn on, I know many, many, MANY women who agree. I don’t agree that you need to wait a few dates to bring it up. However, I probably would preface it by asking if she has any pets, if she grew up with pets, etc. Probably would be weird if you just busted out some kitty pictures out of no where. But if she mentions having a cat, then bring it up and gauge her reaction. If she’s anything like me, she’ll be blowing you that night. Just saying.

  16. Ashley
    March 16, 2011 at 12:36 am

    By the way, @Selena, that’s incredibly judgmental. I’m single and with a cat and I am a very social person. I never remember not having pets in my life, so it was weird for me to go off to college and not have a cat or dog to play with. I don’t see how having a pet has ANYTHING to do with lack of social skills. It has everything to do with loving animals and wanting them to be a part of your life.

  17. Aaron
    March 16, 2011 at 11:35 am

    No, owning a cat is not gay. I have with two, Tiger and Little bit. I can also certainly appreciate an attractive woman quite well and enjoy being sociable.

    I think dumb stereotypes like these and others should be discouraged rather than encouraged.

  18. Joe
    March 16, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Cats use a litterbox, don’t need their owners to hook them on a leash to take a shit, and generally keep themselves clean.

    Dogs eat their own shit, need walked constantly, smell bad, and often drool.

    Cats FTW.

  19. David
    March 16, 2011 at 10:11 pm

    Ha ha all the women on here saying that men with cats is a turn on are lying. They like men with cats because it’s they are sure-fire “friend zone” guys that can be manipulated.

  20. Mr. Cleavage
    March 20, 2011 at 9:39 pm

    Please tell all of your fellatio-loving friends that I own 20 cats. I ADORE cats. I have an amusing calendar in my office with cats all OVER it. My car is a Jaguar, and I LOVE THE DETROIT LIONS!!!
    Please post pictures of your fun-bags…Thanks!

  21. Asshole
    April 2, 2011 at 1:21 am

    I like how homosexuality is only used as an insult on this site. Homophobic dumbshits.

  22. Mr. Cleavage
    April 3, 2011 at 3:55 pm

    I like how one’s user name normally says it all…

  23. April 4, 2011 at 2:15 pm

    I can always count on Mr. Cleavage to defend me.

  24. April 5, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    Hillary Duff thinks I’m being offensive also

  25. Mr. Cleavage
    April 10, 2011 at 1:26 am

    Yes, Johnny, I’ve got your back. Now, please show more soft-core porn… thank you.

  26. Catie
    April 14, 2011 at 4:53 am

    A man owning a cat does not make him “gay”; that being said, a man owning a cat or multiple cats is a HUGE, HUGE TURN OFF (I don’t think I can say it enough). Granted, I am not a cat-person. I have owned a cat and several dogs throughout my life, and I miss that cat, which has since passed away, like I miss my last migraine. I have never been fond of anyone else’s cats either. I am a southern college student and dog owner, and I have one (singular!) girlfriend who likes cats and finds cats a turn-on. About 85% of those who live in my neighborhood own dogs, and the three cats from my neighborhood all belong to the middle-upper aged (and if I may be so bold, very lonely) bachelor, who lives a few doors down.

  27. Mr. Cleavage
    April 17, 2011 at 6:46 pm


    Your lesbian friend sounds hot. Please post pics of her and her pussy (cat).


  28. Christy
    May 6, 2011 at 5:48 pm

    I don’t think a man owning a cat is gay. I really love cats and I get along with them so well (better than some of their owners, in fact). So I think the “cats for owners only” comment above is simply bull****.
    Any guy who can care for an animal shows that he is responsible, which is a huge turn-on for me.

    I have to disagree with the above article on the following statement. “Dogs also tend to kill your social life.” I’ve never met so many people while walking my dog.

  29. Joe
    May 9, 2011 at 2:53 pm

    Yes, it’s gay to own an animal that more or less cares for itself over one that eats its own shit, has to be walked, and smells like, well, dog.

  30. None
    May 10, 2011 at 11:37 pm

    I am an attractive man, so what pet I choose to own is largely (totally) irrelevant. Also, don’t trust the opinions of Southerners like Catie when it comes to what makes people “gay.” To them, everything but wanting to give fellatio to Jesus makes you gay.

  31. January 3, 2012 at 2:57 pm

    You might get a kick out of the comments I received about this post I did about single guys over thirty. They were not happy….

  32. Kent
    January 26, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    I’ve grown up around cats AND dogs and love them both, for different reasons. So I’m not biased one way or the other in regards to preferences.

    I currently own A cat, who is picky, fussy and complains when I’m gone for more than five minutes. She also likes to know where I am all the time (she hates shower time as a result). Regardless of any annoyances, she’s my lovable fuzzball. I’ll gladly talk about her, but only if the person is receptive and likes animals. Otherwise the most I’ll say is “Yeah, I have a cat.” and let it go at that.

    There’s nothing wrong with owning a cat, it’s more about only owning ONE pet (guard dogs are exceptions to this rule, but they’re not usually seen as pets). You could own two cats and nobody will bat an eye, three or more is when you start to move into “crazy cat dude” or “crazy animal lover” (the exception to this is when your pet decides to have babies). The same is very much true for females as well, one pet is odd, two-three(depending on the pet) is acceptable, any more and you’re getting into weird territory. (No, fish do not count as pets, they’re living ornaments).

    So, I’d say the stigma is more about the idea of only having a “single” pet rather than the idea of having a cat per se. This of course is just my personal observations in dealing with people who own pets. So take it as you will.

    Having a cat hasnt made me a “chick magnet” or vice versa. It’s just another topic I can bring up that won’t bore people or leave them confused. So, having a cat CAN make you a more sociable person. It shows that your house/apartment/whatever is more than just a place to sleep, do laundry and all that. A pet finds comfort there, which makes you seem like a nicer person (even if you’re not).

  33. Walter Ward
    May 27, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    To begin with you never own a cat, the cat will own you

  34. Lord Bop HouseIronShaft
    June 5, 2012 at 5:04 am

    Uhhh i think anyone whos attracted to another person because they own a certain pet is wierd as fuck.

    Guy “Def not going to fuck her bro! She likes (insert pet type) bro”

    Girl ” Eww, totaly not giving him dome, he likes (insert pet type).”

  35. Steve
    July 2, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    my cat is a stone cold killer. it doesnt get any more masculine than that.

  36. Kat
    July 14, 2012 at 1:43 am

    If you own your balls and don’t act like a douche, no one will think you’re gay. You can have a cat, dog, or a fucking hamster. Love your pet. Just don’t LOVE your pet, because then it’s gay.

  37. Shawn
    August 10, 2012 at 10:16 pm

    If you are a secure, socially well adjusted, masculine male, then owning a (one) cat is not going to hurt a sensible womans perception of you. If played right, it can be huge plus. Any decent woman is attracted to a masculine man that has a sensitive side.

    What’s gay is a single man with a Puli, Poodle, Chihuahua, or any breed of dog that Zsa Zsa Gabor might have owned.

  38. Natalia
    August 14, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    If a man owns a cat its instant bonus points from me.

  39. Bob
    September 29, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    What’s wrong with being gay?

  40. brian s tate
    December 3, 2012 at 11:05 pm

    I have cats, two of them. Used to have three but one passed away. Loved that one like a son. Best goddamn animal in the world. Fuck anyone who thinks a guy owning a cat is gay. These are the same douche bags who follow justin bieber around on twitter and facebook.

    Cats are super easy pets.

  41. Mo
    January 14, 2013 at 9:36 pm

    I know a guy who owns cats, and I give him a break because he is a pilot and could not own a dog with his schedule. I did initially think it was strange, but a lot of my hesitance towards cats has to do with a couple exes (male) who were very lazy about cleaning the box and their place smelled. One ex had this fiendish cat that was possessed by Satan, and enjoyed crawling under the covers with you at 3 in the morning, then attacking your toes with its razor sharp claws.

  42. Lindaracha
    May 23, 2013 at 5:37 am

    omg, reading all these comments is entertainment at its best. Especially the banter between Deuce McGee and Johnny Sacks… LOL! And Walter Ward couldn’t be more correct: “you never own a cat, the cat will own you”. And no, Bob, there is nothing wrong with being gay, so this whole conversation (although funny as hell) is pointless.

  43. ZeuSisNice
    July 21, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    It’s gay, get real pussy. Guys that own cats have high levels of estrogen-fact.

  44. Mr fake email
    October 16, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    i think what passes for gay thease days is pathetic! your only GAY if your homosexual. so how is ouning a dang cat gay? anser: its not.

  45. Eric
    January 17, 2014 at 7:47 pm

    Honestly who the fuck are you and who gives a fuck what u say who died and made you man’s authority on men. Cat’s are col period i don’t need my masculinity questioned by anybody and i have TWO thats right 2 damnit, im not home a lot so they have each other oh i guess thats gay,.. hahahaha Ever see prioson shows they gve the most hardened cons cats and they love them, think your bad ass go mess with someone in san quentin cuz u think he’s week for having a cat!

  46. Johnny Sacks
    January 17, 2014 at 8:30 pm

    Did you read the entire article, Eric? I LIKE cats. Also try mixing in a punctuation every once in a while.

  47. Steven D. Timm
    March 19, 2014 at 5:21 am

    Just had to comment on this article!!

    I feel that to questions whether a man is a “man” because he has one or more cats is absolutely preposterous!!

    I am a single, 36 year old male who has a cat and I could not be happier!! I am very secure in my masculinity and do not care about others opinions of me, my sexual choice or whether women are turned on or off by my owning a cat. I feel a real man owns how many ever cats he wants and does not pay any attention to others who would deride him on his lifestyle choice!!

    But of course, that’s just me!! Just my 2 cents, for whatever it is worth!!

    Take Care all and catch you on the web!!

    Steve Timm

  48. Mr. Cleavage
    April 3, 2014 at 2:11 am

    People are taking themselves waaay too seriously lately…lighten the f*ck up, people, this is a funny website.

  49. Justin
    August 23, 2014 at 9:48 pm

    I have two beautiful female cats. They are better than any dog I can tell you that much right now. My parents have two dogs and they are wild, dirty and all that. NO THANKS. I LIKE CATS!

  50. Jeremy
    December 15, 2014 at 12:16 am

    Lots and lots of women find men with cats attractive. It shows them that they are secure in their masculinity and can be sensitive. Cats require a deeper understanding than dogs. The macho douchebag male who thinks you need a big dog and act like an asshole to prove they are manly are actually very insecure. Chevy, Ford and Dodge are making a mint selling full sized trucks to millions of insecure men compensating. As for women who rule out men with cats based on same principles as insecure men, they probably got fucked by everyone on their high school’s football team.

    December 15, 2014 at 10:57 am

    I’m going to state the obvious, being gay means you like **** with other men. A cat is a domesticated animal. What we should be asking is what is so messed up with our society that connects these? That reminds me of 3rd grade when kids were saying wearing a pink shirt makes you gay. As a single heterosexual guy who is still in school, I don’t have space or time for a dog. My cat is intelligent, relaxed, can play fetch, comes when called, trained to walk on a leash, and plays well with visitors. When I come home from 8+ hours of work/school to a quiet apartment, I’m just thankful I don’t have a loud/yapping, hungry and emotionally deprived dog to deal with.

  52. BrainFartz420
    March 4, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    Hey I’m a guy a 6″4 black guy that’s str8t noone dares say a word bout my cat and I’m pretty open bout it I’m secure with myself likes what me like does as me wants so fux a stranger with a frigid mindset and unwilling to break the mass media perception which I think I just coined.#KatGangGangGang #Oso Original

  53. A Woman
    April 14, 2016 at 4:01 am

    i think what a woman would find more off-putting than owning cat is the childlike emotional constipation, overpowering insecurity, and aggressive homophobia associated with thinking owning a cat is gay

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