Instant Message Flirting; How to Tell a Girl Likes You Online and Through Text Messages

aim_logoWith the advances in technology over the years, the mediums for flirting have changed. No longer do you have to meet in person or make a phone call to flirt. Thanks to instant messaging, text messaging and social networking sites, it’s easier than ever to charm a girl.

In fact, the first time I contacted my fiancé after we met was through Facebook. Most of our contact early on was through either Facebook or AOL Instant Messenger. These tools are great for guys like me, who are usually to pussy to actually pick up the phone to talk to a girl.

Instant messaging has introduced new methods of flirting. However, many guys, such as myself have trouble picking up on flirting when it’s in person. It’s even harder to pick up on these signals online.

So to help you out, I have consulted with a number of trusted women to help you find out if a girl is actually interested or if she wants nothing to do with you. I asked my fiancé, as well as good friends Sarah, Megan, Amanda, Karen and Melissa. Their names have been changed to keep their secrets safe.

THEY INITIATE THE CONVERSATION
This seems fairly obvious but it needs to be said. If you are always the one initiating the conversation, that’s not a good sign. She needs to IM or text you initially at least some of the time. However, don’t expect that too often because even if she likes you she may not want to come off as desperate and will wait for you to start the conversation.

THEY SEEM INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY
This is another fairly obvious one but if she asks a lot of questions and has good responses to your comments, than you might be in luck. If you are the one always asking questions and trying to keep the conversation going, then you should probably renew your Brazzers membership because you aren’t getting laid anytime soon.

Here’s what Sarah had to say on the matter: “A good sign would be if a girl is constantly engaged in the conversation (i.e. “brb” is a BAD thing) and writes fairly long, but not too long, or too short messages. Too long and they may just consider you a friend; too short and they are just not interested.”

EMOTICONS :) ;)
Emoticons are always a good sign. The more, the better. Big smiles and laughs are always good when flirting in person. Online is no different.

Here’s what my friend Megan had to say: “Without a doubt, the wink is super important when flirting over aim and texts. ;).”

Amanda agrees:  “I do send quite a few of the emoticons as well, usually the winky one, the blushy one, the kissy one or the big smile one.”

and Karen“The winking face is a definite flirting tool, and general teasing of whoever I’m flirting with.”

Melissa had this to add: “I definitely use emoticons but I’m also a big fan of the exclamation point (!) — This is typically when I am trying to be funny or trying to show that I’m really engaged in the conversation.”

Which bring me to my next point…

EXCLAMATION POINTS
Exclamation points are a great sign. Hey! Is better than Hey. What’s up!? is better than what’s up. It shows they are genuinely excited to talk to you and not just being polite.

ADD-ONS TO A GREETING
Any sort of add on to a greeting is usually a good sign. For example, instead of saying Hey, they say Hey there! or Hey babe.

Here’s what Megan had to say: I’d also start off with “hi hottie” and end with “bye babe” or “ciao babe”

Melissa agrees: “To let them know that this conversation will be flirtatious, I typically blatantly start them off that way… I have been known to say “Hey there hot stuff”. I’ve also done this via text. Actually I’m a huge text-flirter, but that is always more blatant than AIM because it’s usually late at night and alcohol-fueled.”

(p.s. Melissa is still single if you’re interested after reading that.)

EXTENDED WORDS
Any sort of extension to a word is good. For example Heyyyyyy or Byyyyee are always good signs. Here’s what my future wife had to say after she went through saved AIM conversations between me and her (apparently this is common among broads):

“Apparently, I thought I was Tony the Tiger and I needed to extend all my vowels with lots of letters “greeeeatttt!” or Hiiiiiiiii! or Byeeeeeee or I knowwwww (there was a lot of that one). I still think I do these things too!”

(You better not still do those things. Who are you still flirting with?)

CAPITAL LETTERS
Capital letters that accentuate a point are good as well. Once again here’s what my fiancé noticed when digging through some old conversations:

“I always seemed to be really excited about anything that you said. CAPITAL letters and all WOW nice! to anything that you said whether I understood it or not.”

HeHe
This is one I learned when asking a few of my friends. Apparently girls will use hehe instead of Haha or lol when they think something is funny.

This is what Sarah had to say: “I feel like girls tend to write”hehe” when flirting… makes the laugh a little cuter.”

Amanda feels the same way: “I tend to do the hee hees and do minor sexual inuendos as well when I flirt.”

THEY SAY GOODBYE FIRST
This was another one I was unaware of before starting this post. I had multiple responses from my “focus group” saying they always would try to sign off first. Apparently they want to make it look like they are busy.

This is what my fiancé had to say: “I also tried to come off busy and tried to end the conversation first. I would always say I was going out with friends or to a bar and if he wanted to stop by that would be cool. I would say all sorts of things to show him that I was busy and would not be waiting around for his next move.”

This could get confusing since a girl who is not interested will likely sign off first as well. This is why you need to pay attention to the other flirtation signals listed above. If you get an extended goodbye or an add-on than you might be getting lucky really soon.

Guys, what are your thoughts? Have you noticed these? Ladies, if you’re out there, did I miss any? Be sure to comment about it.

42 comments for “Instant Message Flirting; How to Tell a Girl Likes You Online and Through Text Messages

  1. Gary
    September 18, 2009 at 12:21 pm

    Intriguing. But, the distinct possibility that my fiance is one of these “Karens” or whatever is cause for concern.

  2. Laura
    September 18, 2009 at 2:39 pm

    If you really loved me you would be able to guess which one I am. hahahaha

  3. Gary
    September 18, 2009 at 3:35 pm

    @Laura
    Excuse me, but if I was giving “flirting” advice I’d be in hot water. Laura, meet my friend “double standard.”

  4. Max
    September 20, 2009 at 1:56 am

    John You are a god among man, this needs to be published

  5. September 20, 2009 at 11:40 am

    Sometimes, though, brb just means “I gotta pee”

  6. John
    September 20, 2009 at 4:37 pm

    Thanks Max. Technically it is published. Tell your buddies how awesome this site is.

  7. Uncle Billy
    September 21, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    Laura, Dont take any crap from whoever the hell this Gary guy is. Just slap him around some and put him in his place.

    John, Max is correct you are a god among men. In a non gay way that is. Not that theres anything wrong with that.

  8. Natalia
    September 22, 2009 at 10:50 pm

    I’d like to read something about “How to tell if a GUY likes you via online/textual relations.” from the guy’s (your) point of view.

  9. Kabel
    September 24, 2009 at 4:36 pm

    Fucking A.. What happened to saying things the way they are?

    I consider this a very magnificent necessary evil.

    Kudos.

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  11. March 19, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    I’d have to agree with a lot of these points. They’re all true, and it can help people who aren’t too flirtatious.

    Natalia, it’s kind of hard over texting/iming, but if they tease you a lot and make fun of you, they like you. :)
    .-= Cartoon Games´s last blog ..Mario Ghosthouse =-.

  12. Joe
    December 31, 2010 at 5:48 pm

    “I’d like to read something about “How to tell if a GUY likes you via online/textual relations.” from the guy’s (your) point of view.”

    Natalia, that’s easy.

    1. He has a penis.

    2. He likes girls.

    3. He talks to you more than 5 minutes and you’re not related to him.

    4. You have a vagina.

  13. Slippy Slappy Doo
    March 31, 2011 at 5:26 am

    I realize ive joined this a little late but i was chatting with a girl who i never really thought anything about cus it seemed crazy. Crazy because she is one of the most gorgeous women i have ever seen. and she was dating my close friend. :-/ But lately shes been IM’ing me and exhibits almost every thing listed above except the winky face. I usually have great instincts about this sort of thing but i suppose im in a type of wishful denial. A too good to be true thing. Maybe shes just being nice or bored or i am just that awesome.
    I guess we ll see.

  14. Scott
    July 22, 2011 at 12:00 am

    To slippy slappy doo:

    exact same thing happen to me awhile back.

    she’s very interested.
    probably has thought about you two being together before too.

    key tip:
    never go on and on and tell her how hot you think she is.
    hot women get this all the time. daily. from strangers.

    a downplayed compliment every once in a great while at the most.
    it means more to her that way.

    if she tries to fish for compliments. the good ol “psshh. whatever.” to her ‘i don’t think i’m pretty’ routine, works wonders.

    she knows. he knows. we all know she’s hot. otherwise she wouldn’t post 50,000 pics of herself.

  15. KAz
    August 7, 2011 at 1:50 am

    Is it odd that I, a guy, show these signs when talking online to most people?

  16. LC
    September 5, 2011 at 7:26 pm

    Yeah i agree with most of that. I didn’t know about the getting off first thing either… although I’ve never had any girls do hehe but I’ve noticed that the more they’re flirting with you the longer the haha’s are. like for example instead of like haha yeah it’s hahahha yeah! to initiate they are laughing more i guess. Also i’ve noticed that when replying to your messages they often tend to put lol or haha more often or start the conversation of with lol/haha.

  17. mema
    October 26, 2011 at 10:46 pm

    I am glad to find this site. i am just in situation that I dont know if a girl like me on facebook or not.we never met in person. The problem that we live in different countries and i just cant travel. Here the sign that make me think that she like me:
    1) She is sound very nice lately and she keep using lots emoticons, mostly grin and tongue, and lotssss of “hhhhhhhhhhh”
    2) one day, i was feeling bad because i have some problems at work and i post it on my wall …two minutes after. she start a chat and she tried to make me feel better.
    3) she was going to college and she asked me about my opinion on some of her choices and I suggested one and I told her that I like thid one and I was planning to go for it but it didnt work out .. guess what?? she went for it…when she got accepted she didnt posted on fb till she surprised me on chat (we didn’t expect that she will got accepted) that she got accepted … 4 min later she posted on her statues
    4) we r talking for hours like one time we talked for like 7 hours almost non stoppable. she asked me lots of questions.
    5) we were chating once and liked a post i posted about how girls r loving and soft. she doesn’t like my post so often.

    what make me confuse that she doesn’t start chat very often and doesn’t do the add ons. Does girls had to do all of the above if they like you or some of them is enough. any answers will very appreciated.

  18. mimi
    October 30, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    @ mema no a girl does not have to do all of the above to like you. that is like a lot girls don’t really wanna over kill and scare you off and it sounds like she really likes you! how long have you guys been talking?

  19. mema
    October 30, 2011 at 6:37 pm

    thx mimi,
    I know her for a little over 4 years (NOW, she has 18 years old and i am 23 years old). she actually a family member she is the sister of my cousin’s wife. she is start to mock me very often. i don’t know r these signs mean she likes me or it can be of just a friendship..??

  20. Qwerty
    December 2, 2011 at 8:31 am

    hey there, so theres this girl that i really like and i think that she likes me but im not sure since she shows most of these signs but sometimes she doesnt look like interested so i stopped texting her since now i couldn’t talk to her face to face either and exactly 1 month after i stopped talking to her she contacts me asking what wrong and stuff like that, what does this mean anything?

  21. Mr. Cleavage
    December 4, 2011 at 9:49 pm

    Qwerty,

    Please describe her fun bags in detail, and I will enthrall you with my opinion…

  22. jaea
    December 6, 2011 at 7:00 pm

    I know this girl for over three years. lately she starts acting weird. she starts to chat with me alot almost in a daily basis for hours. she teases me a lot. she also has two accounts on Facebook. some days she chats me with both accounts in the same time and sometimes she alternates keep going back and forth with the accounts, I don’t know what that means??
    she keeps using lots of emoticons, mostly grin and tongue, and lotssss of “hhhhhhhhhhh”.
    what do u think?? any ideas??

  23. Anonymous
    December 20, 2011 at 1:07 am

    I think that the female being the first to initiate the conversation is a really big sign. This happens to me alot, and almost every time they have ended up telling me that they are interested. : /

  24. Jon
    February 29, 2012 at 12:04 am

    Well, the girl I’m currently interested in exhibits a lot of thesr signs other than the “hehe” and winky face routine. Although, It’s odd we really don’t talk much during school but when we text the conversations could go for hours.

  25. poiuy
    March 10, 2012 at 11:58 pm

    theres this girl that i like and she puts a lot of smilies “:)” and says “lol” a lot. does that mean she likes me?

  26. poiuy
    March 10, 2012 at 11:59 pm

    i dont talk with her much at school either like @jon but our conversations are HOURS long

  27. March 11, 2012 at 12:05 am

    @poiuy…it’s certainly a good sign but I wouldn’t say it’s definite. You should talk to her more in person. I think you’ll get a better idea that way.

  28. tristan
    March 12, 2012 at 8:16 pm

    ok well there is this girl i really like, shes a relative of mine and i know for for a little over a year now, we talk for hours at times, always tease each other and she always starts the conversation, but i was told shes already in a relationship, when i asked her she said she has nothing on her mind except her school. problem is how she acts makes me think that she likes me but am still not sure if shes single or not, and if shes acting this way just to be friendly or is it something more..

  29. Cascade girl
    March 15, 2012 at 6:53 pm

    Jon, do you go to Cascade?!Because if you do, i love you! <3

  30. Mundo
    May 5, 2012 at 12:06 am

    I understand this forum is probably dead, but there’s a girl that lately hasn’t been talking to me as much. I guess I kind of like her, and it’d be cool if we hung out more (In real life). She’s showed a few of these signs during the past few weeks, but the past few days we haven’t really talked online (I rarely start conversations). We still have healthy conversations in school, but other than that there’s not a lot. Any ideas as to how she feels?

  31. JayJay
    July 3, 2012 at 12:16 am

    @Mundo … It’s possible she’s just busy with with school at night. I guess it depends when you’re starting these conversations, or what the person is doing during these conversations.

    There’s a girl I really like, and we can only ever meet online and chat. When she’s gaming, there’s hardly any coversation to be had. And I’m doing all of the initiating. But when she free, the time between my messages and replies shortens dramatically, so if you have that kind of thing going on during your conversations, i.e.: you can gauge how often her replies are coming, then you have solid ground to go from there. And yeah, this forum is probably dead. But since you posted and never got a reply, I thought I might see if I couldn’t give you some help.

  32. Jebediah
    October 2, 2012 at 4:34 pm

    Hi just wondering if i could get some advice, I met this girl like a week ago through a work colleague then that night she added me on Facebook and we have been talking everyday, she is showing me a few of the signs listed above like the emoticons and the extended words and she initiates the convo about half the time, but she lives around 40 miles away so im not gonna see her face to face again for a month yet, I like her and she is proper fit which is making me doubt why she would be interested in me…

  33. Dan
    October 20, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    I really need help! I met this girl about four years ago. I also met her brother Online about three years ago, and we became good friends. Because I became friends with her brother, I became good friends with her. (Just to make this less confusing, I will call her Sally, and her brother Dylan. Lol) Me and Dylan started hanging out and now we are best friends. Earlier this year, Dylan gave Sally my number so that she could ask me to call him when he was out of credit. After that Sally and me talked online and via Text Message. I really started to like her and I’m finding it difficult to tell if she likes me too. She does a few of the things mentioned above. E.g. Capital Letters, Exclamation Points, emoticons (usually :) ;) and XD) She very often puts “hehe” and tries to keep the conversation going by asking questions. Her favourite topic is “Who do you think is pretty at School?” And “Which Celebs do you find attractive?” She always puts Kisses at the end of texts and gets exited when I put them back. However she has said to me previously that she doesn’t want me to feel led on. I would ask her out but I don’t want to ruin my relationship with Dylan. I asked my friend Hannah about it and she said that she has no idea whether she likes me or not. What does everybody else think? Thanks, Dan.

  34. Scott
    October 28, 2012 at 11:45 am

    So I like this girl named Shannon and Im not sure if she likes me or not. We text almost everyday and here are some of the things she does/says:

    1. She initiates the texts a lot

    2. She sends me emoticons like the smiley face

    3. Sometime when she initiates the text she goes ” Heyyyyyy :)”

    4. She tells me she laughs at some things i text her and she also
    says lol and hahahah

    If you can reply what you think Id appreciate it! Thanks, Scott

  35. CappperObv
    October 31, 2012 at 10:44 am

    I can’t believe chatting with girls is so hard these days, although i prefer to talk face to face i do find myself IM’ing girla, thanks for all these tips. My girlfriend of 6 months agrees with just about everything above and like your fiance has chatlogs to show her flirting even girls agree that thse points work.

  36. Ryan
    November 9, 2012 at 6:54 am

    Why hasn’t anyone asked about Melissa?

  37. Jacob
    November 17, 2012 at 8:36 am

    I know I’m really late, but there’s this girl I’ve known for 2 years now. We’ve talked on facebook before and she didn’t seem very interested. This year though me and her talk for hours at a time. I asked her out last year but I was rejected. I think the reason why is because we were just friends before that and we didn’t really talk that much about relationships ect. All I did was just make her laugh. This year we’ve talked about more serious things and I’ve complimented her and sent a huge message telling me everything I like about her and how good of a friend she is. After that message she sent: Aaaaaawwwww!!!!! :3 wait…. WHY R U MOVING?!?!): and just so u know, I don’t think it would’ve sounded dumb in person. I think it’s really sweet(: <3 as you can see lots of smiley faces some capitals and exlamation marks! Almost every message has an lol and smiley face or haha usally all together. She also tells me everything she's. doing like shell say I just got out of the shower, I'm watching my favorite tv show, or I'm eating and shell say what she's eating. She told me she was straightening her hair and I said "you're hair looks better strighteneed and she said, " Thx…" what does the … mean at the end? Then I told her she's welcome and she sent a smiley face. She has also been sending a lot of hearts latley. Please let me know if you think she likes me. And should I wait and see if she straightens her hair more often because I said it looks better that way? Or does it matter? I am 15 in 9th grade if that matters. She is the same age and grade. Also here is my email: jgates104@gmail.com please email me if you have more info and make the subject GIRLS in all capital so ill see it while checking my email. Thank you this really means a lot!

  38. mike
    December 9, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    i like this girl and i talk to her every now and then and when we play games during practice (we do sports together) i will tease her go after when we play tag and she will tease me back i give her compliments sometimes she will flirt with me but then as soon as practice or our season is over i feel as though i dont really exist to her she will talk to me when im with one of my friends and they talk once i get dragged in one way or another ive never had the courage to ask her out so i was texting her best friend and i told her that i liked her and the girl i like her best friend talked to her about me she said she didnt know if she liked me back so i waited and one day my friend told me she wont go out with me because im to much of a jerk this really surprised me because i always tried to be friendly and when i try to text her she will completely ignore me and i really need some help with this

  39. Johnny B
    January 4, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    Hey guys and gals:
    I have a quirky situation. I work at a job that has an instant messenger and everyone around me uses it for chatting with each other about the weekend, what they’re doing, but the messenger is primarily for business purpose use. I know those messages can be looked at, etc…blah, blah, I”m not worried about that at all.

    The ladies referenced in this post are above 30 years old.

    Well, I became interested in a lady (aka June – not real name) at work(no worries,there is nothing in our corp employee handbook or anything unwritten about relationships being a “no-no”). I keep it clean for sure and non-suggestive – it is a workplace and you don’t want to make someone feel uncomfortable.

    I had to walk by the lady’s desk one day to get pizza that we ordered through someone in her “area” of work – I don’t sit very far from her. I stopped into her cubicle and chatted briefly with her for a moment. It went well. I was interested in her from the first time I saw her.

    I went back to my desk and instant messaged her that it was nice to meet her and we discuss our love for pizza. We said “see ya later” with pleasantries.

    I was told a few weeks later that she was single by someone reliable and she was.

    A few weeks later – I would start out our day within the first half hour by saying “good morning.” Her reply was “good morning and how r you ?” We would have brief discussions and then get back to work. I would sometimes IM her after lunch – ask how was lunch – what’d have? etc…and sometimes I wait til the last 15 mins of the day and tell her to have a good evening, etc… it became a routine for a few weeks or so.

    I got really close to asking her out, but I suggested a restaurant about 90 miles away (a famous soccer players brother owns the restaurant and this lady I like plays in 2 adult soccer leagues). She replied “That’s far.” We started talking about corp dining coupons we bought at a discount and I was ready to ask her to go to another restaurant closer to where we live, but our conversation got cut short.

    Our routine was the same instant messaging – eventually over a few days (probably out of desperation of wanting her to know I was interested) I began to flood her with IMs – I was caught up on my work, so I had more time on my hands. Ladies – do you think she thought that I became desperate, needy guy ?

    Eventually over the course of a week or so – I really started flooding her with lots of messages to the point where I may have turned her off.

    Her messages started getting shorter and then she’d take longer amounts of time to answer.

    I always say “hi” to her in person in the morning if I see her walking here or there or if I see her in the cafeteria at work. The lady she walks with never says “hi” back to me or even looks at me. When June’s friend is walking by herself – she doesn’t acknowledge me at all – she looks straight ahead and never a glance or smile or anything. Ladies what does this mean ???? – the girl I like smiles and says “Hi”, but the girl she walks with doesn’t even acknowledge me or anything.

    Well, I ended up in a instant message conversation w/ June on Christmas Eve – 12/24/2012 – she reveals part of the way thru the conversation “I’m seeing someone and it’s really new over the past week or so.” I wished her the best with him. Should I have done that ?

    Well, I was priming her in that conversation for the two gifts that I bought her for Christmas and had brought and had hidden at my desk.

    So, 20 minutes after I wished her the best with her new man or whatever or if he even exists !…I instant messaged her “well, I’ll save these Christmas gifts that I bought for you in case things don’t work out with him – there’ll be plenty more future special occasions and we’re not going anywhere anytime soon either.”

    She replied “You didn’t ?!”
    I said “yes, I did” “no worries” “it’s all good”

    then she spent the next 10 messages joking around saying: “oh man, that stinks.” “I’m ticked I’m not getting those gifts – lol – jk” “I’m not like that”

    I even joked around stating “Well, maybe you’re really not seeing someone.”
    She said “she is and she’s not lying.”

    Well, near the end of conversation – I finally got up the nerve to give her my phone number. She didn’t say anything in reply to it.

    On Dec 26th, 2012 – I went into work early and slipped the gift certificate for a massage(one of her gifts) under her keyboard, bc I didn’t want to walk over to her dept and embarass her in front of all the people she works with and hand-deliver it. I put a pastel colored “Post it” note in the envelope simply stating:
    June:
    “This gift certificate already had your name on it, therefore it is yours. I want you to take some time for yourself and enjoy this.”
    Signed, X (my name, but I’m not disclosing that here)

    1.) I figured if her messages are getting shorter and shorter – she must be losing interest

    2.) Maybe she does have a guy she’s seeing – so I backed off

    3.) She now takes a lunch at a later time than I do now (used to be on lunch at the same time and she used to sit at a table full ladies)

    4.) She does read a lot on her “Nook” – she told me so. so, could have changed her lunch to read more and stay focused.

    5.) walking towards me the other – she was about 100 feet away and we recognized each other – she put her head down and looked at her cell and walked right by me staring at it – I figured she was ignoring me and didn’t want to make eye contact, so I didn’t say anything to her at all

    6.) Yesterday – I turned around and saw her in the lunch room and she smiled and waved at me – from across the room, but none of those other women were around her.

    7.) Just today I came around a cubicle and we saw each other by accident and she smiled and waved her hand at me

    8.) she always says “hi” to me for the most part

    9.) Last Sunday I looked up her FB page and sent her message stating:
    “Hey Melissa – how are you doing ? If we’re friends – like you said – I’m thinking it would be ok to add each other here on Facebook. Any thoughts ? I don’t post on other peoples’ walls.”

    10.) My happy new year FB email to her:
    “Happy New Year !!! I just got in – I’m bombed !!! LOL
    no worries – a friend – the DD – drove me home :o)”

    11.) then I sent her a final message a few days ago stating – “Hi June – I’m a little a disappointed that I haven’t gotten a reply from you at all. This is a much more relaxed and open environment to communicate through and you haven’t said a peep back to me. I don’t believe that I’ve done anything wrong to you at all. You can say anything you like back to me and I would completely understand.”

    12.) well the good news is – she hasn’t blocked me on FB.

    13.) Recently over the last 5 work days or so – I stopped instant messaging her all together at work. I figured – if she won’t reply to me outside of work where we can speak more freely she must not be interested at all ??? Or maybe she’s waiting for me to “grow some balls” and just request her as a friend on Facebook ?? …but I don’t want to look desperate or as if I’m stalking her.

    14.) I figured – I’ve shown that I’m really interested in her – she should initiate some kind of contact if she’s interested – correct ?

    I must say this too – neither of us are magazine model types, but we’re certainly not ugly. We’re both in good shape, take vitamins, exercise, like movies, like to read, like music…and like some of the same things.

    Sorry for this being so long, but I’m really hurt – I believe at some point she was really, really interested…maybe she still is, but is afraid to say so.

    I do notice her pupils dialating when I get close up and talk to her – you can look at part of body language up online and find out what that means. :o)

    We also work at a workplace where everyone is fingerprinted and background checked, so that wouldn’t be an issue either.

    Thanks folks,

    a nice looking guy – trying to attract a nice looking woman.

  40. Neko
    February 9, 2013 at 10:10 pm

    One other thing I’d like to mention, being a girl myself, is that sometimes, when a girl really lies a guy, she will be hesitant to end an IM/texting conversation. She will want to talk to the guy for as long as possible. This is especially true if a girl isn’t sure whether the guy likes her back, or knows for sure that the guy doesn’t like her back. She will want as much of him as she can have without making it blatant that she likes him, so as not to force him into a corner where she may lose her chances with him and also his friendship. If she stays up late texting or IM’ing you, and is reluctant to log off, instead asking more questions about your life, your day, something you mentioned, etc., there is a high chance she likes you beyond just friendship.

  41. Das
    February 25, 2013 at 8:44 pm

    Here’s my story met a girl on fb she send me a message after commenting one of her pics so we talked flirted blabla told me she didn’t make any surprises for her friends bday so I invited her to join us and she agreed and told she was abut down tonite..she came wasnt feeling well so wasn’t too talkative but was always and trying hard just came up with blank minds and she said she was down at the end… After dropping her off talked to her was a bit timid as in one word Answers… Next day I talked to her she was also timid laughed once haha and she said that wasn’t down but normal then I said but u told me urself u weren’t she said true but I’m gd .

    So my question is clearly she took a very bad impression is it fixable or should I drop it?

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